How can we show the courage to leave the past behind, how can we move on to the acceptance process?

Sometimes we can't realize that the events we experience affect us deeply. Even if a long time has passed, our mind can overwhelm us with assumptions like "if it had been like this, if only I had done that" by reliving the situations we were affected by. 

To give a concrete example, someone watching outside from a room in a house really wants to go out because it's snowing outside and walking in the snow and spending time to the fullest looks very nice. Doing these things is possible by going outside, but what keeps them trapped in that house without opening the front door is being a spectator and not taking action, being stuck in that room. 

At the same time, dwelling on the past, on assumptions that won't come true, and on regrets causes us to feel sadness, regret, and anger, and because of this, we can't move forward and fall out of the flow. However, trusting the entire process we live through and being able to see the good in everything that is and isn't is in our hands. We can prevent our mind from taking us back by believing and accepting that, thanks to what we've learned from our experiences, we can direct what comes next to something better. In other words, whenever we stop being stuck in that room and take action, the key to the outside door finds us. 

If you feel stuck and blocked, think:

 "What things that you actually cannot change do you stubbornly refuse to accept as they are?"

To transform your life and yourself into your best version, you need to eliminate the "if onlys" from your life and trust and surrender to everything that is and isn't. You can start this by answering the question above, that is, by recognizing the negative things from the past that still revolve in your mind. This way, you can allow new developments to happen and witness the change in your life. 

The acceptance that shows your courage to let go of the past Another suggestion for your process is to have a space where you feel comfortable and that belongs only to you. Securing this space for yourself and spending time here will accelerate your process of making peace with yourself. 

Wishing you a life where you accept and love things as they are, trust that the process always brings you the best, and stay in the flow!

As Team Birdiejay, we are always by your side to support you and your journey.

With my love,

Çiğdem